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Long Distance Love


So yeah, long distance sucks arse that’s the first thing I’m going to say. Having a breakdown over the phone and sounding like an asthmatic hippo whilst crying to your other half isn’t the best way to spend an evening, (although I’m pretty sure it’s an effective way to deter potential burglars by fooling them into thinking you have an aging and very volatile wild animal living in your room). The second thing I’m going to say is, it’s doable. Totally. All the people who tell you ‘Don’t go Erasmus with a boyfriend/girlfriend, you’ll have less fun, you won’t go out that much etc…are talking utter balls. Having a boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t mean you’re obliged to be chained to skype. It might mean that 7th glass of sangria probably wasn’t a good idea, as you’re far more likely to have a bought of homesickness and end up wasting all your credit texting badly spelled drunken heartfelt messages(or in my case harry potter chat up lines) home. That could totally happen to anyone though.
The bottom line is, it depends on the kind of person you are. If you’re clingy and dependent, it might be a bit of a wake up call. If you’re the opposite and value a bit of time to yourself, you might equally come to some interesting conclusions about how much you actually do care about each other. If you both want it to work, you can make it work.
Yes, it’s hella difficult sometimes when all you want to do is crawl into bed with your boyfriend/girlfriend and watch a film before falling asleep with a dead arm because you can’t be arsed to move. Bliss. But there are things you can do to keep in touch and make sure you fill each other in on your lives. funny-comic-dinosaur-T-Rex-love
  • Skype is a godsend. Even if it’s just a quick chat in between coming home from uni and heading out for a drink with some friends, it all makes a difference. I have a couple of friends who do skype dates where they’ll get the same film and watch it together over skype! Cute idea, never tried it myself. Something tells me I might end up smashing my laptop in pure rage with the annoying time delay, when you’re trying to tell them something crucial to their understanding of the film. Like how you have an inappropriate older man crush on Alan Rickman and you ‘definitely would’.
  • Letters. So much better than getting an email.The best part is you have something tangible, to look back over and re-read when you’re having a shite day and you’re in need of some cheering up.
  • Visits. The best part about going abroad, is getting to play the knowledgable tour guide when people come to visit you. You realise how much you’ve learned and you get to spend some time with your boyfriend/girlfriend in a cool, exotic locaiton. So far I’ve managed to see my boyfriend once every month, that’s just how it’s worked out. Every two months isn’t so bad, just a bit of a stretch.
  • Whatsapp or something similar on your phone. It’s free so you can tell them all the stupid thoughts that fart about in your head all day. Makes the distance feel a little bit smaller. I can’t tell you how nice it is to hear something from them every day, even if it’s just a little message to tell them how much you hate your boss or what you’re planning to do at the weekend.
  • Call each other once in a while. Maybe not everyday. There’s only so many times you can hear what the other person had for lunch before you start playing ‘How would I kill you off’ in your head.
  • Postcards and parcels. Getting an unexpected postcard with a brief hello always brightens up the day! Sending birthday presents, valentines day cards and all that jazz in the post is also a great way to keep some parts of your normal routine together.

If you’ve got decent friends, they’ll try to support you when you’re having a rough time dealing. And that makes life a whole lot easier! I generally take the view that if it’s going to work out, it will, if it doesn’t then there was something not quite right there. Fingers crossed  I’ll come back acceptably freckled and my boyfriend won’t have overdosed on tea. Best of luck to everyone!




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