All posts filed under: lifestyle

Recognising Domestic Abuse.

   Recently I’ve been reflecting on some things that happened last year. Before I start, I should say that this isn’t my experience of an abusive relationship but an outsider’s perspective.     A friend who I met whilst in Spain came to the UK to work and improve her language skills. She’d been with her boyfriend for about 7 or 8 months. They met online and decided to make it official about a month into knowing one another. I’m not by any means saying that meeting people online isn’t a great way to start a relationship, because it can be for some. The guy my friend met however, turned out to be controlling, jealous, emotionally manipulative, angry and verbally abusive.     I’d been aware that there were a few incidents before the event that left my friend, for ease’s sake I’ll call her Sam, traumatized and in fear for her life. Very recently Sam has bravely agreed to help me write an article about her experiences, in order to help other women who …

Advice To 16 year Old Me

After reading Robert Webb’s advice to his younger self, it got me thinking about what I’d say to 16 year old Georgie, knowing what I know now. What would have really made a difference to my life? What would have made the stress of school a little more bearable? Here are the things I think would have made the most difference. To be honest, these are things I’m still trying to take on board to this day, but for anyone reading who’s a little younger, just trust me. So, here are the top 3! 1.) Don’t let fear of looking a tit, hold you back. The only things that really stick with you in terms of regrets, are the things you didn’t do. It’s cheesy but true. You know when you go to bed, and lie down and try to clear your mind, and your brain goes, “Hey, here’s all the stupid stuff you’ve ever done! Enjoy!”? Yeah, you’ll have less of those moments if you just forget about what everyone else is thinking of …

The Death Of The Lad

‘Ser hombre es mucho mas todavía, es no rebajar a nadie, con una orden, con una propina. Es mas, es… no permitir que nadie al lado tuyo se sienta menos, que nadie al lado tuyo se sienta mal’ ~ El Beso de la Mujer Araña For a long time now we’ve been hearing about the impact of ‘lad’ culture and the pressure for young guys, particularly at uni, to conform to the very narrow acceptable face of masculinity. I’ve spoken before about how feminism isn’t just for women, it involves men’s issues as well and this is a perfect example of how gender stereotyping affects men too! The idea of what it means to be a man is no doubt holding a lot of young men back. I’m not even sure what ‘being a man’ is supposed to entail, other than being in charge and being in control of your own life, traits which, it seems to me, don’t need to be gender specific and certainly don’t barr you from liking so-called ‘girly things’. The …

Back To Uni: The Essentials

It’s that time of year again! Back I go to Nottingham Trent University, ready to start my Masters. I have a confession to make, my guilty pleasure is hoarding stationary like it’s going out of style. I love it, can’t help it, if I see a notebook I like or some fancy highlighter sticky notes that I’ll probably never use up completely, I’ll buy ’em quick as a bee. I’ve done the first year, highly over prepared, bought out paperchase and now has no student loan left and I’ve done the second year who can’t muster up a pen and a scrap of paper to take notes on. I’ve finally found a happy medium! I’m not overburdened with a Mary Poppins style bag full of stuff, but I have everything I need to make my uni life a little easier. Not just with the essentials for lectures but above and beyond that. I’m an old hat now at the uni game, four years at Nottingham have schooled me well. I thought I’d share my lifesavers, …